When you think of Healthy Boundaries, what comes to mind? Are your concerns having to do with food and what you will choose to eat and what to avoid? Some are concerned with the choice of clothing and keeping it simple. Throw in your relationships and your communication styles. If you could pick any topic or several, where would you instill healthy boundaries? What are you most passionate about? Is it working with people or things? Maybe its all of the above choices. Including healthy boundaries in any area, takes work. Your thoughts have a lot to do with the healthy boundaries you instill. That, reader, is your starting point!
Health Boundaries Now
Think back when you were 18 and move forward to today. What would you tell yourself now that you have matured? It seems so simple and yet these healthy boundaries would indicate the relationships you build, the food you eat and the events you attend. You might even choose a different church to expand your spiritual growth. Whatever the case, inward reflection on what you cherish the most, will show up in your life. It doesn’t matter what you choose, each will give you a way forward or a way that you would not have chosen if you knew ahead of time.
Thoughts matter too, my friend. That’s where it all begins. What are you believing about yourself? Healthy Boundaries form when you don’t believe the lies that may have been said to you or about you, intentionally or even otherwise. This alone has been my challenge and it may be for you as well. Words like, you cannot learn, you should quit school, you don’t understand concepts or you are a slow learner. These things could have been said a very long time ago. You could be agonizing over these very words. I could go on but who does it serve? No reader wants to hear things that do not benefit themselves. I don’t either. Because when words don’t serve yourself, how could you serve others?
Old Habits, New Thoughts
To be truthful, many of these very scenarios, I have gone through myself and still do. These old thoughts and habits are not serving me. Crossing that bridge is a decision to freedom, as painful as it may be. How would you like to let go of the old habits and thought patterns that can keep you stuck? How about letting go of the fear? Visualize the freedom!
Would you know the first step to begin? For one, you can bring to mind that person or situation and forgive them. Say it out loud. “I forgive so and so for…” A one time thing or a process, you may find that saying this again is noteworthy. Compare it to pouring clean water into a dirty glass until it is pure. I know you can do this! I’m here to support you along the way.
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